Parenting...getting at the heart of the issue.

As I shared with you before, we are considering adoption.  We picked up a small book put out by CCEF (Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation) called "Helping Your Adopted Child:  Understanding Your Child's Unique Identity"...there was a lot of great information in it, I suggest it if anyone is thinking of adoption.  :0)  Anyway, the point of my post....I've been using some information from the book with little Gray and it seems to help A LOT at figuring out his motives. 

"Questions that aim at the heart:

1.  What was going on?  Have your child tell you about the details of the situation.
2.  What were you thinking and feeling as it was happening?  This will help your child look at the thoughts and emotions in her heart.
3.  What did you do in response? It's important that you ask this third and not second, because your child's behavior comes from her heart.
4.  Why did you do it; what were you seeking to accomplish?  This goes after the purposes, goals, and motives of the heart.
5.  What was the result?  This addresses the consequences of the choices the child made."

Discipline and encourage appropriately...edify with scriptures and have your little one pray (or help them to) :).